23/07/2015, 20:05 - : Hi...

24/07/2015, 22:06 - : Either I have sent message to wrong person or...

I sent this to her on WhatsApp three to four days after visiting her place. I had received positive response from them about the marriage proposal. In fact I was littler surprised with that. Because feedbacks received about the meet from my parents were not so good.

On morning of 19^th July 15, I got up at around 5:45. My father and mother, both had already reached Mumbai, since our visit to see a girl was planned that day. Technically speaking I should have given sufficient time to think on this event but I did nothing; directly I wore shirt and jeans which as per my knowledge were  decent ones; with a bag on my back I reached Mulund which was my Aunt’s place. As per planned time and place, we reached girls place at Sanpada. The first impression about house I would say; it was better than expected. We were introduced to the family and other relatives present there. The discussions happened about family, jobs and especial one was, my probable posting to Zambia. Even the girl was also looking very good in blue saree and make up. Actually I was surprised when I saw the girl because there was huge difference I felt in what I saw just now and pictures I saw on her FB account. So by and large all went good. Actually these are among the embarrassing things to face in a life; something that I would never like to do again. Meet ended with conclusion of communicating final response within two days.

Next day I got call from home, and my mother started shouting on me about cloths I was wearing yesterday; color was not ok, there were not washed properly and all. So what I sensed out of that, the proposal is likely to be get rejected by them. Next day also there was no communication from them. But it’s always something you don’t guess because we had received yes from them next day. Rather I would say it was not my credit at all; whole credits goes to the label which I was carrying i.e. an employee of a TATA company. Even before also when my pictures were sent without informing me, were not less than horrible. Immediately question which got popped up in mind was: what next?? I had seen many of her pictures. I was not ok with them and reality it was something else. My parent liked the girl very much so they assumed my answer and said yes to them. Then I thought of putting message to her on WhatsApp. I sent message to her on 23^rd July 15. But she didn’t reply which was bit of surprise to me. Because as per my understanding, Mumbai girls are not like this. Next day evening as per routine I called my home. And I was told that she wants have one to one discussion with me. In fact this should have been initiated from me. So same evening i.e. on 24^th I sent one more message; this time there was reply.

This is how messaging started and we planned to meet on Tuesday since it was my weekly off. There were only two things she used to do; working in home like cooking, etc. and second was office. These two things would consume 23hrs of day. And rest one hour was for travelling. And at both places taking my calls were prohibited. WhatsApp was also available only at home. With whatever time available, sharing of each other details, questions-answers happened. Basically this discussion started to have face to face interaction with each other but many of the question answers were already covered in phone calls and chatting. Actually here we are not to understand each other; rather it’s about spending whole life with each other. Due to different weekly offs, we were not able to fix the meet. Finally on 1^st Aug, the day came. It was Sunday and she was having off. I had planned a meeting with EWAC L&T for some outage related work. So internally I convinced my colleague to finish
the discussion with vendor in 1^st half so I will be free in 2^nd half of the day. Simultaneously I informed the same to her and asked her come to Vashi at around 3 o clock. We reached Taloje at vendors shop. I was with thought that I will be free by lunch time but till 2’o clock, I could not move. I messaged her about delay. At 3’o clock I got free, which I informed her and asked to come to kharghar so that we will have more time to spend together. And when I reached kharghar with thought that she would reach in while. But she was still getting ready at home. So I said lets meet at Vashi. Then I reached Vashi   and still she had not left home. Actually I was ok with her behavior because eventually she is a girl. She reached at around 4:30 and she had already made me wait for 20 mins. Meanwhile I messaged her for not come in saree. She was wearing yellow dress (??). Since my previous experience about my own dressing was terrible; with little research on the subject, I concluded that I should wear shirt which has white color in it which creates good formal impression. So I bought new one which I was wearing that day. As expected there was normal hindrance intalk. She suggested to go to mini sea face; actually I pretended that I am not aware of the place. We had good discussion there. Fortunately everything remained formal; detailing about the family and all.

On 5^th August her father went to see my native. He went to many places- my home, our temple, my uncle’s place, etc. After whole discussion, I was given some feedback which was on negative side. He tried to be bit dominant on discussion, some illogical demands on gold etc. It could have been because of the difference in lifestyle of both families or…. I don’t know. Most of the demands were rejected by us. Still they agreed on it.

Parallel to all this, chatting and calls were going on in whatever little time was available to her; I mean I was available for full time: p. Basically I was trying to understand her nature. One thing was very clear that she was not Mumbai type girl; which I could not properly analyze. One of the reason could be her mother’s health because she spent a lot of time on taking care mother and family. Many time I used to put some indirect line, normally there were only plain replies; either she wasn’t understanding it or not interested in answering them. Day by day, there was little attachment had definitely happened. When her father had visited my native, I told her that things are not going on positive side. And there I could sense her feelings. She was upset with it. One of the thing I would never forget was her funny English (I know I am also ok ok language section).
 

After multiple cycles of discussion, things were very much on positive side. Our first visit to her home, our meet at Vashi, her father’s visit to my native place; all went well with few exceptions. My parents finalized marriage hall, date of marriage. Ultimately one more visit was arranged for final pre marriage discussion. Accordingly we asked few selected members to be present for discussion. In between, through chats and phone call, this was being discussed. I sensed some mismatch between opinions of two families about the meet. So I asked my father to get in touch with them. Actually they wanted clarity on some issues which they wanted to discuss with me. Finally meeting planned at Mulund on 23^rd August. Since actual agenda got diverted, some of the attendees were curtailed. We were ready at 10:30 in morning as decided. Other party reached at around 11:45. Their major concern was about my probable posting to Zambia. They got feedback about Zambia that it is highly HIV infected country. And sending their girl at such place was not comfortable for them. Further they asked for two more days for final discussion and then said they would agree if I refuse to go to Zambia.

I left my aunt’s place on that evening with mixed feelings. I sensed that it’s almost over now. One thought was lingering in my mind that was about her. Few days back, she was upset on this topic after her father visiting my home and now it was almost finished. I sent message twice but there was no reply. I hope she was ok.

 

...27.08.2015

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lIfE gOeS oN

27^th May 2013

How was it? Did I pass or fail? Unfortunately answers are not available to anyone. What about my performance? No one is bothered. Next phase is ready with my new targets.  I got to just move on with fresh start because I don’t know place to dump my failures. It’s all gambling of mind because it is me and my life.

Finally mail flashed on my desktop and my transfer has been confirmed. School-college-job! Where am I going? Whether ever I had thought of going to place like Bhivpuri for that magical term called CAREER, when used think about my future in school days? Is it right path am I walking on. If this is asked to me then definitely I will say I am on wrong track. But I am not capable to perfectly judge it. Everything seems correct here and no answer is wrong?

Just quick review of my journey so far; scholarship exam, SSC exam, CET, till my selection in Tata Power, everything is above satisfaction. Now I am at one more critical interface where feeling of satisfaction is little missing. At end of everything I have to convince myself that its hunt for something to justify your life to yourself. 

 

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Our mind keeps wobbling in fixing upper and lower deviation of happenings (or incidents) which are likely to hit us in future. We are in continuous efforts to align our today with tomorrow. But normally it doesn’t go that perfectly. There is always something ready which is going to strike out your limits and you found yourself landed in some puzzled state. This is how we learn to have more stretched target ahead. All I m trying to match the day I joined here and now when I am leaving from here (not fully but partially).

A girl says it was me who started your day and your day didn’t go well. It starts with very simple things. It is like roaming in garden full of colorful flowers in pleasant atmosphere where many things are getting framed inside. Then few months down the line, all of a sudden its unknown desert.

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a JuVeNiLe iNNoCeNcE

I reached Ambernath station and its already 6:30 PM; I have only 13 mins to spend with her before my next train arrives for khopoli.

After around 10 years, she was with me; except once or twice I had seen her  but not alone and; in my fantasies. When I was priority for her, we were not knowing meaning of priority, and today I am not her priority at all.

How beautiful a girl is!- has direct linkage with how many are attracted towards a girl. She was not among beautiful damsels, but still she always remained special for me. A girl, her beauty, attraction were not part of my thinking when I was in school. But somewhere in corner of my mind those things were always lingering for her. And surprisingly in her mind also. 

6:43 PM- train is standing in front of me, If miss the train then I will miss my bus also; whereas If I miss these couple of minutes now; then most probably, I would meet her  in marriage directly. By the time train started moving. Now my next train is at 7:39 PM after one hour. May be she also wanted to spend some more time with me. Actually there was no any special topic, I had to discuss with her, whole discussion was revolving around normal 'hi and hello chat'. 

I remember, it was my SSC exam time. I had made up my mind, if not now then never, its my last exam paper means last chance. I have to confess it to her. I completed my exam, I was looking for her outside exam hall; unfortunately I could not find her anywhere.

At around 7:00 PM her phone rang. The special one was on other end waiting for her on Thane station which is around 45 mins from Ambernath Station. She had to move now. Though her 2nd priority had left train for her to spend some more time, and 1st priority is waiting her somewhere else.

We went to different location for studies after SSC. Keeping communication with friends was not so easy those days since that was not era of mobile, facebook, SMS, etc. Hence there was no contact for many years and when I got her back during my final year of engineering, things were changed, priorities were shifted. New friends were attached to her including a special one also.

I got call after some time; voice was not clear, I could here some sorry and all but I could not talk much due to network problem. Fortunately now I am very much accustomed to such things.

16th Feb 2013.

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fRee HaNd wOrK wiTH gRaPhiTe,,,,

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fInaLLy i oWn A fLat iN MuMbai.. :)

29th Jan 13

Whats the normal story of everyone when he enters in city like mumbai hunting bread and butter. First thing is to search for home. Getting a job is more easier than getting a home in mumbai. Around 8 years back, I entered in this mumbai MAYANAGRI. Initially I took help of my relatives; but that decision made me run all over the mumbai in the hunt shelter. Unfortunately everyone turned out to be helpless. After completing hectic journey of four years, I landed in company where company accommodation was available very easily and that was life time as long as I am with the company.After enjoying these ready made homes, Time has come to look for own flat; to say-this property belongs to me.

Initial thoughts started with small budget home. If not in mumbai then look what outside area says! I checked prices in area like mulund, thane. But it did not work. Then I asked a estate dealer lets walk 10- 20 km away more. But still prices were too high. I started walking on periphery of mumbai and my radius was increasing day by day.

I took decision to visit the places personally, so lets check area like navi mumbai-kharghar, Badlapur. when I checked on 99 acres, it was looking possible. I contacted one real estate agent in kharghar and planned to see him. When I went there, he convinced me that my budget of 20 lakhs is not good enough to own a flat on navi mumbai till panvel. He provided me options ike Taloja and nevade. With his one assistant I went there, almost all area was under construction. This area was very closed to proposed metro station but own by muslim people. I was not happy with location and we came back to his office where i saw that dealer was seating actually a real estate invester who was looking like left hand of Laaloo. I was introduced to him. He gave me offer saying i like your face so I can give you a flat in Ulwe at 3500 where the current rate is more that 4000. Then I decided to visit Location. I saw a small village was turning into a jungle of building. Newly coming sewri navha sea link and extension of harbour line in this area had made all these changes. When I looked at placed nothing was clear, there was not single proper road, all that I had to imagine only. Future was looking bright but it  was minimum 10 years down the line. But still with thought of getting 1 BHK i turned back to home. when my was asked by my father -how to reach there, I could not answer properly.
Next week I decided to check Badlapur. First I checked Krishna height everything was perfect;early possession, proper connectivity 15 mins from  station and within budget. Further to that I saw one more place called shashwat park.

When I went back I was having three option ie Ulwe which is full of dust but tomorrow was bright; Taloje was good but yet to develop and locality was little issue and last one was a much safer one -badlapur. And final call went to Badlapur. Decision was approved by family, because of early possessions and low risk. I had seen a flat on third flour but unfortunately 5th flour flat was written in my destiny- shashwat park Y - wing 502.

people say getting a flat in mumbai is dream for a maharashtrian. But I was not aware about boundary of mumbai which is increasing drastically today.

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FACEBOOK

Its was very popular in earlier movies and serials; that people are entering in different world through a membrane like interface. ie harry potter enter the world of miracle through a wall,etc.
This is very much analogous with social networking site where we interact with unknown people without any real contact. The word social networking immediately diverts our attention to sites like facebook, twitter, etc. Facebook is very famous in young generation.

Someone opens the account; sends requests to girls. Few requests get accepted and many remain unanswered. Then first question is 'Hi'.Then if you are enough fortunate then reply appears;then soft soft flirting and so on. A boy sending request to girl, chatting with her, but there is one thing always missing ie a concrete trust. Ultimately whole relation depends upon a single mouse click; beyond that their existence for each other is zero.Any one person can understand only side of this interface whereas  other end is always imagination. If there is delay in reply means is she chatting with someone else also? Such things are always remains there.

But If a girls want to be a fake celebrity then facebook is good option. Just keep uploading photos and accept friend requests. With small chatting conversation can make you can facebook celebrity with more than 4000 friends in the list.

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sHaDes oF ThOuGhTz oVer A sKeTcH

Human can think. This is statement of three words but if we understand the meaning. then definitely I can conclude that above fact has created a lots of changes in this universe.

A sketch is posted on wall of my room. Whenever a new person happened to enter in my room, get to see this sketch. I got variety thoughts or opinions on this sketch from different people.

Thought no 1- one madam had seen sketch. she said-they are in deep love with each other. and. the way they are holding each, it seems that they will never depart from each other.

Thought no 2- It was replica of cartoon picture that my hands had tried to draw with help of a pencil and a blank paper. One more senior had visited my room and saw the picture. He observed carefully. Finally concluded that the hair style of boy in sketch matches with mine. Both of you are not maintaining your hairs properly. His hairs are as unstructured as yours.

Thought no 3- It was in line with first one. That they are involved in highest intensity of love. and for a time being, they have lost connectivity with rest of world.

Thought no 4- I was among the most junior ones at my workplace, I was in contact with seniors only. One more such friend saw sketch. He found waist of boy is very narrow. It is not matching with picture, it looks odd.

Thought no 5- My one more friend shaded the picture with love. But this time I asked him to observe the picture and tell me what is wrong in the picture. He said- its perfect picture. It reflects good sense of love. Both of them were away from each other and could not see each other for long. And now after long time they are together.

Now I can say that there are two types of opinion. People who are talking about love includes two girls and one boy with broken heart. whereas other two have not tested flavour of love, Or just going mechanically.Its just a thought; not any kind of conclusion.

There was one more opinion I found ie. the artist of the sketch is ditched by a girl; and after that he has drawn it.

Now Lets see how did I draw this sketch.I had seen same sketch drawn by one of my colleague that I liked a lot. So I searched the same picture on net and drew it. After completing it, I was searching for right place to keep, Hence I decided to paste it on wall. There was no thought of love while drawing it.   

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